How to Make the Ask and Change Your Relationship with Money – with Laura Fredricks

My guest today is an expert on making the ask. What do I mean by making the ask? Often the ask is about money: maybe you are a philanthropist that needs grants, a startup looking for investment capital, or you are too nervous to ask for a raise or promotion at your current job. Laura can help you ask in all of these situations and others as well, such as with romantic relationships and with family. Laura Fredricks has taken her asking skills from a career in law and journalism and turned this expertise into a business helping others. Listen to my chat with Laura to get some expert advice on the ask.

Do you have a fear of asking for money?

People usually have a huge fear of asking for money. Listen in to this discussion with Laura to learn how to get over this hurdle that can be holding you back from making money. Laura has fantastic tips whether it’s for fundraising or negotiating your salary. This interview will inspire you to change the way you think about asking, especially when it comes to money. Laura’s insight can help give you the courage and inspiration you need to become an expert on asking and in turn get you the results that you want.

The ask is a conversation, not a confrontation

One simple hack that Laura gives me about learning to ask for what you want, is that the battle is within. So often we feel that asking needs to be a confrontation, but it shouldn’t be. The ask needs to be a conversation, not a confrontation. Laura has a simple five-step plan to design your ask to get you what you want. Listen in to hear what the steps are so that you can start implementing them in your everyday life. Her advice is simple and easy to follow. Listen in to hear the full conversation.

What is money wellness?

So many of us focus on improving our health through better nutrition and exercise. But the number one cause of most people’s stress is money, and for some reason, we don’t consider money wellness a health issue. Money is a health issue! Money wellness is about being healthy, not wealthy. Laura Fredericks has some fantastic tips for improving your relationship with money. Every decision you make involves money, so improving your relationship with money should be of the utmost importance. Ask yourself, what does money mean to you? All money represents in life is an opportunity. Nothing more, nothing less. Listen to today’s episode to discover how to turn your relationship with money into a relationship with opportunity.

How can the ask improve relationships?

How does the ask apply to relationships? Not asking creates tremendous stress in relationships. You can improve your relationships by simply asking. By not asking you are setting your relationships up for hardship. Laura gives me some excellent advice when it comes to romantic relationships as well as familial relationships. We all have a relationship where we have trouble saying no or asking for what we truly need. Listen in to find out how making the ask can improve your relationships with those closest to you.

Episode Highlights

  • 2:32 – How did Laura become the leading expert in “The Ask”
  • 8:21 – What are the 5 steps of asking for money?
  • 15:38 – What are some of her biggest challenges?
  • 20:55 – What actually is money wellness (and how can you get it)?
  • 27:34 – How does asking affect relationships?
  • 31:24 – What are the differences between men and women when it comes to asking?
  • 40:51 – How do you ask family to go along with you next big move

Resources Mentioned

1. Favorite book for women?

  • The 10x Rule by Grant Cardone – “It reminds you how important your energy level is.”
  • Sell or Be Sold  by Grant Cardone – “It’s true, you either sell or be sold!”

2. Favorite self-care hack?

  • Sleep 8 hours a day

3. Best piece of advice and who gave it to you?

  • Most recently my friend Ray Paskey told me, “You’ve  grown too much, you need to get a team!”

4. Female CEO or thought leader you’re into right now?

5. One piece of advice you’d give your 5 years younger self?

  • “Don’t second guess when you know in your heart it’s right.”
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